So today I texted my husband a pic of a positive pregnancy test as well as saying "I'm pregnant." His response was hilarious and made it seem nearly impossible to not extend this fun little prank. Alas, i posted it on FB and the comments flew in. Was I pregnant? Was it a joke?
Well, if you haven't seen (which i'm sure most of you have) it was most definitely a joke...
so in the spirit of April Fool's day tell me your best prank you've ever done...
Happy Friday!!
Thursday, March 31, 2011
Tuesday, March 29, 2011
You're Invited
To stop being incompetent.
Do you have that friend that has to be invited to everything or else they feel left out or not as special?
These types of people annoy me for multiple reasons.
First being that most anything I do I'm fine with anyone coming all you have to do is ask. I'm not a formal invitations kind of gal. If you wanna tag along just say so. If I don't think it's something you should tagalong on then i'll let you know. Here we are again with that whole ASKING and not expecting people to read your mind. Amazing how reoccuring this issue is.
Secondly and most importantly in my head is these almost always (at least in my life) seem to be the same people who consistently do stuff and DO NOT invite you. It's like okay so i'm supposed to think you're so awesome and invite you everywhere on the RARE occassions we get to go out but then in the same breath i'll have to understand that you won't invite me anywhere for whatever ludacris reason you've schemed up in your head. Here's the deal... i don't have time for mind games. Either you're my friend or you're not. i'm not going to go out of my way to be a great friend to you or make sure you're happy if you could really give two cents...
What gets me is that i'm finding this more common with people older than me. Is this because i matured way too young due to the cards i was dealt? Or is it because some people just don't have common sense? I have no clue. Either way it's ridiculous.
So here's a lesson in common sense. If you have a problem with me not inviting you somewhere or with anything that I do or don't do be smart about it. DO NOT COMPLAIN TO ONE OF MY BEST FRIENDS. It's like HELLO is anyone home in there? Seriously just bend over already because your ass is already showing and it's quite humorous. You're HOW old again? Come the heck on already. I don't have time for the mind games. IF you can't afford something, say it. I won't judge you for it or laugh at you, however I will judge you if you whine about it to someone else without even giving me a chance to show you the kind of person I am.
Oh here's another lesson... you will never be able to be friends with everyone. At some point you have to stand for your beliefs values and morals. I, in no way shape or form, expect you to agree with me 100% of the time. So stop expecting everyone to bend down and feel so sorry for you and all you're going through but then in the same breath think you're so stinking cool and invite you to EVERYTHING.
It's okay to NOT be invited somewhere. Do you invite your husband EVERYWHERE? (think nail salons, hair apts, girls night out, etc.) If so, well i don't have time to go into that right now haha. But if not, take a look at your marriage. Did he divorce you? Most likely not. So again, realize that friendship is like marriage. It takes communication and compromise. Sometimes that means you don't hang out with that person everyday. When you've been dubbed as that girl that's stuck up so and so's ass it's pretty embarassing. Enjoy YOUR life. Spend time finding out who you are and let your friends help you accessorize your life with things you may not have learned or noticed before. Stay open minded and learn there's different ways of doing everything. Heck some people wipe back to front and others wipe front to back. Everyone's unique. Embrace that and realize that it's okay to be alone.
Okay, end rant. haha. I need some suggestions for a new topic to discuss. Anyone?!
Do you have that friend that has to be invited to everything or else they feel left out or not as special?
These types of people annoy me for multiple reasons.
First being that most anything I do I'm fine with anyone coming all you have to do is ask. I'm not a formal invitations kind of gal. If you wanna tag along just say so. If I don't think it's something you should tagalong on then i'll let you know. Here we are again with that whole ASKING and not expecting people to read your mind. Amazing how reoccuring this issue is.
Secondly and most importantly in my head is these almost always (at least in my life) seem to be the same people who consistently do stuff and DO NOT invite you. It's like okay so i'm supposed to think you're so awesome and invite you everywhere on the RARE occassions we get to go out but then in the same breath i'll have to understand that you won't invite me anywhere for whatever ludacris reason you've schemed up in your head. Here's the deal... i don't have time for mind games. Either you're my friend or you're not. i'm not going to go out of my way to be a great friend to you or make sure you're happy if you could really give two cents...
What gets me is that i'm finding this more common with people older than me. Is this because i matured way too young due to the cards i was dealt? Or is it because some people just don't have common sense? I have no clue. Either way it's ridiculous.
So here's a lesson in common sense. If you have a problem with me not inviting you somewhere or with anything that I do or don't do be smart about it. DO NOT COMPLAIN TO ONE OF MY BEST FRIENDS. It's like HELLO is anyone home in there? Seriously just bend over already because your ass is already showing and it's quite humorous. You're HOW old again? Come the heck on already. I don't have time for the mind games. IF you can't afford something, say it. I won't judge you for it or laugh at you, however I will judge you if you whine about it to someone else without even giving me a chance to show you the kind of person I am.
Oh here's another lesson... you will never be able to be friends with everyone. At some point you have to stand for your beliefs values and morals. I, in no way shape or form, expect you to agree with me 100% of the time. So stop expecting everyone to bend down and feel so sorry for you and all you're going through but then in the same breath think you're so stinking cool and invite you to EVERYTHING.
It's okay to NOT be invited somewhere. Do you invite your husband EVERYWHERE? (think nail salons, hair apts, girls night out, etc.) If so, well i don't have time to go into that right now haha. But if not, take a look at your marriage. Did he divorce you? Most likely not. So again, realize that friendship is like marriage. It takes communication and compromise. Sometimes that means you don't hang out with that person everyday. When you've been dubbed as that girl that's stuck up so and so's ass it's pretty embarassing. Enjoy YOUR life. Spend time finding out who you are and let your friends help you accessorize your life with things you may not have learned or noticed before. Stay open minded and learn there's different ways of doing everything. Heck some people wipe back to front and others wipe front to back. Everyone's unique. Embrace that and realize that it's okay to be alone.
Okay, end rant. haha. I need some suggestions for a new topic to discuss. Anyone?!
Monday, March 21, 2011
quick to anger
I am not one that enjoys being mad at someone. I hate grudges. I think they're pointless. I think what I hate most is when someone is mad at someone but doesn't even let them know. How on earth is this person supposed to know they did something wrong if you haven't confronted them?
I understand that confrontation for some can be scary, but in the same breath what good is it doing being angry about something that can never be fixed until it's addressed?
I've known many people; friends, family, etc. who are quick to be angry with someone without even sharing with that person what they did wrong. The anger usually festers up and develops into worry, gossip, loss of trust, disrespect and much more. It seems odd to me how someone would rather spend days, weeks, months or years mad about something rather than approaching the situation in a mature respectful manner and simply say "hey, i heard blah blah blah" or "when you did this it hurt my feelings" or whatever the issue is. I like to think that some people don't because they just don't care. Maybe they're like my husband and for the most part things just roll off their back. However, there are some out there who will hold onto these things and continue to complain about how awful someone is or they can't believe they did that but yet they have yet to let them know what they've done so they can FIX it.
I don't think it's a daily goal for most people (well at least i hope it's not) to go out and upset someone... especially friends or family. Do things happen? yes. Should it be the end of the world? no. Talk it out. You'll be amazed how much your relationship can grow.
What about those who constantly say "oh don't worry i'll confront them ___insert day___" (don't get me wrong i'm not claiming to be this amazing person who's never done this. i definitely have waited to approach someone until i felt as though i had everything in order to actually confront them and make my case on why i was upset and waht it was that upset me) Have we become numb to the idea that tomorrow isn't promised? Those long lost cousins, your spouse/significant other, your child, your family, your friends... they could ALL be taken in an instant. Does anyone really want the last memory to be that they were upset with that person?
IMO, being upset with people takes too much work. First you have to remember WHY you're upset and with 2 little ones running around it's easy for me to forget. Heck half the time i don't remember what i had for lunch. Then you have to let that fester and continue to boil over until you're so mad you don't want to reconcile. Either cut them out of your life and be done or approach the situation. I promise it's only intimidating at first. You can actually agree to disagree. It's this cool things adults (well most hopefully) do. haha
I guess what I'm saying is this. Be slow to anger. Enjoy your friends and family. Remember we're all human and we have to make mistakes to grow and mature. Take it easy and when a mistake occurs confront it. Give them a chance to realize their wrongdoings and help make your relationship better. Life is a lot better when you're in a good mood and worry free then when you're walking around counting all the people you're mad at and why you're mad at them.
A few words of wisdom i like on this particular topic...
"Leviticus 19:17-18
Do not hate your brother in your heart. Rebuke your neighbor frankly so you will not share in his guilt. Do not seek revenge or bear a grudge against one of your people, but love your neighbor as yourself. I am the LORD."
"Ephesians 4:31-32
Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you."
"Proverbs 14: 29
Whoever is slow to anger has great understanding, but he who has a hasty temper exalts folly."
I understand that confrontation for some can be scary, but in the same breath what good is it doing being angry about something that can never be fixed until it's addressed?
I've known many people; friends, family, etc. who are quick to be angry with someone without even sharing with that person what they did wrong. The anger usually festers up and develops into worry, gossip, loss of trust, disrespect and much more. It seems odd to me how someone would rather spend days, weeks, months or years mad about something rather than approaching the situation in a mature respectful manner and simply say "hey, i heard blah blah blah" or "when you did this it hurt my feelings" or whatever the issue is. I like to think that some people don't because they just don't care. Maybe they're like my husband and for the most part things just roll off their back. However, there are some out there who will hold onto these things and continue to complain about how awful someone is or they can't believe they did that but yet they have yet to let them know what they've done so they can FIX it.
I don't think it's a daily goal for most people (well at least i hope it's not) to go out and upset someone... especially friends or family. Do things happen? yes. Should it be the end of the world? no. Talk it out. You'll be amazed how much your relationship can grow.
What about those who constantly say "oh don't worry i'll confront them ___insert day___" (don't get me wrong i'm not claiming to be this amazing person who's never done this. i definitely have waited to approach someone until i felt as though i had everything in order to actually confront them and make my case on why i was upset and waht it was that upset me) Have we become numb to the idea that tomorrow isn't promised? Those long lost cousins, your spouse/significant other, your child, your family, your friends... they could ALL be taken in an instant. Does anyone really want the last memory to be that they were upset with that person?
IMO, being upset with people takes too much work. First you have to remember WHY you're upset and with 2 little ones running around it's easy for me to forget. Heck half the time i don't remember what i had for lunch. Then you have to let that fester and continue to boil over until you're so mad you don't want to reconcile. Either cut them out of your life and be done or approach the situation. I promise it's only intimidating at first. You can actually agree to disagree. It's this cool things adults (well most hopefully) do. haha
I guess what I'm saying is this. Be slow to anger. Enjoy your friends and family. Remember we're all human and we have to make mistakes to grow and mature. Take it easy and when a mistake occurs confront it. Give them a chance to realize their wrongdoings and help make your relationship better. Life is a lot better when you're in a good mood and worry free then when you're walking around counting all the people you're mad at and why you're mad at them.
A few words of wisdom i like on this particular topic...
"Leviticus 19:17-18
Do not hate your brother in your heart. Rebuke your neighbor frankly so you will not share in his guilt. Do not seek revenge or bear a grudge against one of your people, but love your neighbor as yourself. I am the LORD."
"Ephesians 4:31-32
Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you."
"Proverbs 14: 29
Whoever is slow to anger has great understanding, but he who has a hasty temper exalts folly."
Tuesday, March 15, 2011
stolen valor
This disgusts me.
I wasn't raised in a military family. Sure, my great grandfather whom I knew up until I was 2 yrs old was in the US Navy. My Paw Paw was also in the Navy but that was WAY before my time and he's not one who was all gung-ho for it. My view on the military was very tunnel-like. I assumed everyone was either Army or Navy. I didn't understand how things operated and that there were more than those 2 branches.
It wasn't until I was 17 yrs old when I just so happened to be best friends with a guy who was joining the Marine Corps. From there I slowly learned more and more. I met marines at the recruiting station and many of my other friends opted to join the Marine Corps. I flew to Japan when i was 19 and met a lot of young marines. I was married to a Marine when I was 20 yrs old and we moved to California. There we were stationed with a lot of NCO's (noncommissioned officers) who had served at LEAST one but most of the time more tours in iraq/afghanistan. Having met these men and heard their stories always baffled me on how it was so easy for me to trust them around my children. It's simple though. They're men of faith, courage, honor, commitment and most of all, a huge heart. These men give up any and everything for their country. I'm glad to say that the men my husband was stationed with in California have most certainly become like family to us. I consider them all Uncles to my son and love when they get to see or talk to him.
Now why would ANYONE try and take their respect away? Why would someone honestly claim to be a military personnel when they were not?
Is it because they look up to them so much? Is it because they wish they'd made a difference? Can anyone tell me?
I'm at a loss right now. I don't see it being okay in ANY situation to EVER claim to be a military personnel let alone a DISTINGUISHED military personnel. Purple hearts, PTSD & medical retirement are all VERY REAL. These are not things real marines strive to achieve. They're just "good old boys and girls" trying to serve their country.
Does someone really think if they say they have these things (when in actuallity they don't) that they're better than someone else?
You could always claim insanity. I was talking with a dear friend about it and she said it best "Lots of people are insane, they dont' go around claiming purple hearts though."
It pains me to know that there's people out there like this. It disgusts me for the men and women who I've met in the military that have EARNED the right to be called a Marine. What's even MOST baffling to me is how these people can actually shake TRUE war heroes, marines, etc. hands and look them in the eye. They might as well be spitting in their face.
I have nothing nice to say to them. I'm going to pray about it. That's everything that I can do. I know God will handle the rest.
(ETA: i referred to marine corps mainly because that's what i know.)
I wasn't raised in a military family. Sure, my great grandfather whom I knew up until I was 2 yrs old was in the US Navy. My Paw Paw was also in the Navy but that was WAY before my time and he's not one who was all gung-ho for it. My view on the military was very tunnel-like. I assumed everyone was either Army or Navy. I didn't understand how things operated and that there were more than those 2 branches.
It wasn't until I was 17 yrs old when I just so happened to be best friends with a guy who was joining the Marine Corps. From there I slowly learned more and more. I met marines at the recruiting station and many of my other friends opted to join the Marine Corps. I flew to Japan when i was 19 and met a lot of young marines. I was married to a Marine when I was 20 yrs old and we moved to California. There we were stationed with a lot of NCO's (noncommissioned officers) who had served at LEAST one but most of the time more tours in iraq/afghanistan. Having met these men and heard their stories always baffled me on how it was so easy for me to trust them around my children. It's simple though. They're men of faith, courage, honor, commitment and most of all, a huge heart. These men give up any and everything for their country. I'm glad to say that the men my husband was stationed with in California have most certainly become like family to us. I consider them all Uncles to my son and love when they get to see or talk to him.
Now why would ANYONE try and take their respect away? Why would someone honestly claim to be a military personnel when they were not?
Is it because they look up to them so much? Is it because they wish they'd made a difference? Can anyone tell me?
I'm at a loss right now. I don't see it being okay in ANY situation to EVER claim to be a military personnel let alone a DISTINGUISHED military personnel. Purple hearts, PTSD & medical retirement are all VERY REAL. These are not things real marines strive to achieve. They're just "good old boys and girls" trying to serve their country.
Does someone really think if they say they have these things (when in actuallity they don't) that they're better than someone else?
You could always claim insanity. I was talking with a dear friend about it and she said it best "Lots of people are insane, they dont' go around claiming purple hearts though."
It pains me to know that there's people out there like this. It disgusts me for the men and women who I've met in the military that have EARNED the right to be called a Marine. What's even MOST baffling to me is how these people can actually shake TRUE war heroes, marines, etc. hands and look them in the eye. They might as well be spitting in their face.
I have nothing nice to say to them. I'm going to pray about it. That's everything that I can do. I know God will handle the rest.
(ETA: i referred to marine corps mainly because that's what i know.)
Sunday, March 13, 2011
"affording" it
In the preparations of my son's 2nd birthday I have done a lot of researching. Along with the show "Outrageous Kid Parties" on TLC I have come to the conclusion that just because you can AFFORD IT doesn't mean you should do it.
While I want my son to have an awesome birthday and celebrate the day he was born, I do not want my child to grow up expecting extravagant birthday parties with every attraction you can think of. He's turning 2. It's a big deal in my house. However, that does not in any way shape or form constitute me spending hundreds of dollars.
IMO, that takes away from the true celebration of birthdays. First of all, he won't even probably REMEMBER this birthday party. While yes he can look back at pictures he still won't cognitively remember how mommy/daddy spent hundreds of dollars. The important thing is that friends (and family) come together to celebrate the birth of our first child.
That's what's important. The friends/family who are here to show their love and appreciation for our son. Not the bounce house, $400 cake, $200 worth of decorations, etc. It's the love of family and friends.
Now will I be spending money on my son's birthday? Of course. I think I may splurge and get him a nice cake or I'll splurge and get a simple bounce house for all the kids to play in. I'm not going to make this over the top. Although, the thought DID cross my mind.
I had a conversation with a friend who's child is older than mine. I was telling her all the ideas and thoughts that I had and she said it perfectly "why not just do something simple. that's what his birthday is about. there's no need to go crazy." I think too often it's hard to get caught up. I have some friends who do spend oodles of money on their child's birthday. Do I think badly of these people? Of course not. But that doesn't mean that I have to do the same thing. It's easy to get sucked into that but in reality it's your decision on what you want your child to remember and expect.
Not to mention if you can afford it now who says you can afford it in 3 yrs and then what do you tell your child when they EXPECT this over the top party and are not happy with a simple get together? To me it's setting up for a disaster. I want my kids to appreciate the love they have from other people, not expect the attention.
So I guess I'll close with this... just because you can afford something doesn't mean you should buy it. This extends wayyyy past just children's birthdays. I only spoke about children's birthdays because it's what I'm dealing with and well that show "Outrageous kid parties" is new and i happened to see a little bit of it the other day.
Have a blessed Monday!!
[Please keep praying for those in Mainland Japan. You can donate at http://www.redcross.org/ or you can go to http://www.bandsforarms.com/ and purchase a Humanitarian Relief bracelet. Bands for arms is a nonprofit oranization that helps support the troops by donating to the USO so the troops can communicate with their families]
While I want my son to have an awesome birthday and celebrate the day he was born, I do not want my child to grow up expecting extravagant birthday parties with every attraction you can think of. He's turning 2. It's a big deal in my house. However, that does not in any way shape or form constitute me spending hundreds of dollars.
IMO, that takes away from the true celebration of birthdays. First of all, he won't even probably REMEMBER this birthday party. While yes he can look back at pictures he still won't cognitively remember how mommy/daddy spent hundreds of dollars. The important thing is that friends (and family) come together to celebrate the birth of our first child.
That's what's important. The friends/family who are here to show their love and appreciation for our son. Not the bounce house, $400 cake, $200 worth of decorations, etc. It's the love of family and friends.
Now will I be spending money on my son's birthday? Of course. I think I may splurge and get him a nice cake or I'll splurge and get a simple bounce house for all the kids to play in. I'm not going to make this over the top. Although, the thought DID cross my mind.
I had a conversation with a friend who's child is older than mine. I was telling her all the ideas and thoughts that I had and she said it perfectly "why not just do something simple. that's what his birthday is about. there's no need to go crazy." I think too often it's hard to get caught up. I have some friends who do spend oodles of money on their child's birthday. Do I think badly of these people? Of course not. But that doesn't mean that I have to do the same thing. It's easy to get sucked into that but in reality it's your decision on what you want your child to remember and expect.
Not to mention if you can afford it now who says you can afford it in 3 yrs and then what do you tell your child when they EXPECT this over the top party and are not happy with a simple get together? To me it's setting up for a disaster. I want my kids to appreciate the love they have from other people, not expect the attention.
So I guess I'll close with this... just because you can afford something doesn't mean you should buy it. This extends wayyyy past just children's birthdays. I only spoke about children's birthdays because it's what I'm dealing with and well that show "Outrageous kid parties" is new and i happened to see a little bit of it the other day.
Have a blessed Monday!!
[Please keep praying for those in Mainland Japan. You can donate at http://www.redcross.org/ or you can go to http://www.bandsforarms.com/ and purchase a Humanitarian Relief bracelet. Bands for arms is a nonprofit oranization that helps support the troops by donating to the USO so the troops can communicate with their families]
Sunday, March 6, 2011
thank you
2 simple words. yet it seems as though people find it harder and harder to utter this mere polite phrase.
Be it someone opening a door for you, getting you something, letting you cut in on the road or whatever else it is thank you's are so commonly used yet forgotten.
Thank you was one of the first phrases i taught my son. Although it sounds more like teet-chew he does know that when someone gives him something or does something for him it is the polite thing to say back.
Has human society become numb to the "nice" gene? Have we become so caught up in our own daily lives that we feel as though we're entitled to acts of kindness rather than overwhelmingly grateful.
I try and make it a point to say thank you as much as possible, even for the little things. Am I in the minority with this?
I encourage each and every one of you to make it a point to say thank you at least 3 times in one day. You'll be amazed at how easy it is to reach that small number. You never know maybe you'll make someone's day by appreciating their help.
Be it someone opening a door for you, getting you something, letting you cut in on the road or whatever else it is thank you's are so commonly used yet forgotten.
Thank you was one of the first phrases i taught my son. Although it sounds more like teet-chew he does know that when someone gives him something or does something for him it is the polite thing to say back.
Has human society become numb to the "nice" gene? Have we become so caught up in our own daily lives that we feel as though we're entitled to acts of kindness rather than overwhelmingly grateful.
I try and make it a point to say thank you as much as possible, even for the little things. Am I in the minority with this?
I encourage each and every one of you to make it a point to say thank you at least 3 times in one day. You'll be amazed at how easy it is to reach that small number. You never know maybe you'll make someone's day by appreciating their help.
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