You're Invited

To stop being incompetent.

Do you have that friend that has to be invited to everything or else they feel left out or not as special?

These types of people annoy me for multiple reasons.

First being that most anything I do I'm fine with anyone coming all you have to do is ask. I'm not a formal invitations kind of gal. If you wanna tag along just say so. If I don't think it's something you should tagalong on then i'll let you know. Here we are again with that whole ASKING and not expecting people to read your mind. Amazing how reoccuring this issue is.

Secondly and most importantly in my head is these almost always (at least in my life) seem to be the same people who consistently do stuff and DO NOT invite you. It's like okay so i'm supposed to think you're so awesome and invite you everywhere on the RARE occassions we get to go out but then in the same breath i'll have to understand that you won't invite me anywhere for whatever ludacris reason you've schemed up in your head. Here's the deal... i don't have time for mind games. Either you're my friend or you're not. i'm not going to go out of my way to be a great friend to you or make sure you're happy if you could really give two cents...

What gets me is that i'm finding this more common with people older than me. Is this because i matured way too young due to the cards i was dealt? Or is it because some people just don't have common sense? I have no clue. Either way it's ridiculous.

So here's a lesson in common sense. If you have a problem with me not inviting you somewhere or with anything that I do or don't do be smart about it. DO NOT COMPLAIN TO ONE OF MY BEST FRIENDS. It's like HELLO is anyone home in there? Seriously just bend over already because your ass is already showing and it's quite humorous. You're HOW old again? Come the heck on already. I don't have time for the mind games. IF you can't afford something, say it. I won't judge you for it or laugh at you, however I will judge you if you whine about it to someone else without even giving me a chance to show you the kind of person I am.

Oh here's another lesson... you will never be able to be friends with everyone. At some point you have to stand for your beliefs values and morals. I, in no way shape or form, expect you to agree with me 100% of the time. So stop expecting everyone to bend down and feel so sorry for you and all you're going through but then in the same breath think you're so stinking cool and invite you to EVERYTHING.

It's okay to NOT be invited somewhere. Do you invite your husband EVERYWHERE? (think nail salons, hair apts, girls night out, etc.) If so, well i don't have time to go into that right now haha. But if not, take a look at your marriage. Did he divorce you? Most likely not. So again, realize that friendship is like marriage. It takes communication and compromise. Sometimes that means you don't hang out with that person everyday. When you've been dubbed as that girl that's stuck up so and so's ass it's pretty embarassing. Enjoy YOUR life. Spend time finding out who you are and let your friends help you accessorize your life with things you may not have learned or noticed before. Stay open minded and learn there's different ways of doing everything. Heck some people wipe back to front and others wipe front to back. Everyone's unique. Embrace that and realize that it's okay to be alone.

Okay, end rant. haha. I need some suggestions for a new topic to discuss. Anyone?!