Wifey Wednesday

My next structured blog will be wifely wednesday. You guessed it... i'll discuss something to do with being a wife.

Today, i'm going to talk about "date nights".

I feel like it's very important to have a date night with your husband. For my husband and I we strive to have one at least once a month. A night with no kids where we can hang out and enjoy each other's company and focus on each other as people rather than just a mom or dad. Of course, like any parent, we still end up talking about our kids but we do try our hardest to minimize that and really focus on each other.

Date nights can be as simple as staying in and playing a game together or as complex as a nice dressed up dinner out some where followed by a fun evening of adult activities.

The main importance of this to us is that we don't want our lives to be ruled by our children. I hear far too often that "oh you have kids, man your life is over!" Um, no! That's not the case. Our children are blessings and we feel so blessed that God chose us to have them. We both feel as though our lives jumped into more meaning when we had children and has been a rollercoaster of adventrues, fun and laughter.

It's so easy to get caught up in the "daily grind." Ya know, the cleaning, diaper changing, bottle making, bathtimes, etc. That by the end of the day you can sometimes neglect the importance of your spouse outside of just their parenting skills. These date nights give us a chance to learn new things about each other, discuss issues in our marriage and just enjoy each other.

At the end of the day we both know that our children will grow up and someday move out of the house and start families of their own. Then what? What if i've only viewed my husband as a father? His 18+ years of parenting aren't over but they aren't as demanded as they once were. So what if then I realize "hey, i don't even know you anymore and you're more like a roommate?" This is what we try and avoid by having scheduled "date nights" together. We want to keep the romance alive and truly grow together as one.

I encourage you to try and indulge yourself in a date night. Even if you have no one to watch the kids set one night aside a month that you and your husband stay up late after hte kids go to bed and just ENJOY EACH OTHER!! It's so important and I guarantee that early morning the next day will be so worth it when you see your marriage growing stronger and closer with each day.

I Peter 4:8
Most important of all, continue to show deep love for each other, for love covers a multitude of sins.

John 13:34
So now i am giving you a new commandment: Love each other. Just as I have loved you, you should love each other