Facebook = Friends

Okay, I have grown to love and hate facebook.

I do not feel like I need to be friends with everyone i know and everyone i used to know on facebook.

First of all it's a time consuming warptunnel. Secondly it makes friendships insanely impersonal. I can't count the number of people on my facebook that I don't hear from...EVER...but yet they seem to want to be friends with me. Idk if it's because they want to "stalk" me or if it's because they want to feel popular by their number of friends but it's just not what I want for my 2011.

I want to use fb as a way to get in contact with my friends/family back home as well as other friends I can't readily communicate with that I do care about and want to know how their lives are.

Just because someone is deleted off facebook why do they so readily jump to the conclusion that it's "drama" or that they are no longer a friend? Why can't it just be that someone wants to have a REAL friendship. Ya know, how in the old days you actually HUNG OUT with people and you actually picked up a phone and made a phone call (or hell even a text).

I just don't get it.

I do get that the ones who quickly jump to those rash conclusions were probably deleted in good context because their actions are proving the types of friends that they really were. I've already heard a huge fuss over deleting people a mere hr ago but only ONE person has come to me and asked me..."Why?" and you know what I told them? The exact reason why.

I don't want impersonal friendships. I don't need to know where you're checking in at all hours of the day. I don't need to know when your kid pooped or when your head hurts. I WANT AND NEED true friends. Friends that care to pick up a phone. Friends that make an effort to hang out. Friends that don't jump to the conclusion that it's just drama or immaturity but that know me and realize that maybe there's something ELSE motivating this "deleting."

True colors always shine through. Unfortunately for some they're just that ugly shade of purple that I can't seem to stand.

Side note: it does freak me out how quickly some noticed they were deleted. Were you stalking my page that second and tried to click on something else and couldn't see it? Or did I show up on a sidebar as "add as friend"? idk the answer to that question and while it's something i'd love to ask i'm not going to. The ones who care and the ones who want to be my friend will make that effort.

May sound selfish, but IMO, I feel like i've made plenty of effort. Given tons of chances. Opened my doors. Forgiven when maybe I shouldn't have. Trusted after continually being burned. Passed on goods to the ungrateful.

So here we go 2011. Those who mind don't matter and those that matter don't mind.