"Friends"

I am titling this "Friends" because that's just what it's about.

Ya know, those people you never hear from unless they need something? Or the ones who are a mutual "friend" and act like they care because they're getting somethng but in the end they're quick to judge you based on what they hear from other "friends."

These people piss me off.

Being someone who is a giver by nature I notice I seem to surround myself by a lot of takers. I have no problem having an "open door policy" at my house. If you need something I'll go out of my way to be there for you be it meds for your child, an ear to vent to, some help with your budgeting, insight on my parenting style, advice on the MC lifestyle or maybe some hand me downs that could prove to ease your life in whatever way you need.

Well, this open door policy is coming to a quick close. I don't want to say i'm throwing it out the window, but I am going to have a "bouncer" at the door. You have to be on the VIP list to rate those privileges in a friendship from me. I'm no longer going to endure your "fake friendship" because you feel you're getting what you need.

Friendship is like marriage. It takes work. You have to communicate and work through you problems as well as give as much as you take. You're not my pimp so why am I constantly giving to you? It's simple. Because I let you. Well, not anymore.

Good riddance.

I don't have to be friends with everyone. I don't have to be the center of attention. I don't have to surround myself with fake people. What I have to do is make sure that my husband and children are healthy, happy and supported. Make sure I am healthy, happy and supported. If you can't contribute to those aspects of my life then don't be shocked when the door is slammed in your face.

2010 brought people into my life who were "friends" 100%. I had "friends" make assumptions and slam the door in my face. I had "friends" who knew me well enough to know that i don't judge people's parenting but yet they were quick to turn around and judge mine. I had "friends" who were so jealous of my life or things my children had they had to voice their opinions to others as well as myself and write it off as "not filtering." Lots of time the excuses were "that's just how i am" well, fine. This is just how i am.

I know that I'm a "ride or die" type friend. I will be there for you through thick and thin. But I'm learning not everyone deserves that type of friendship and i'm not going to lower my standards on what I think a good friend is just to appease your insecurities.

So it begins...filtering through my life (technologically and in real life) to rid myself of all these "friends"

The potential drama that could ensue has kept me from doing this for a long time. However, a dear friend of mine explained to me there's only drama if i respond. So if you think this is about you, well you're most likely right. Say what you want. Think what you want. Be who you want. But just know that I'm going to keep saying and thinking what I want as well as continuing to be who I want.

I have 3 mothers. I certainly don't need anymore.