Marriage

Marriage is a sacred bond. I do not take that commitment lightly. While i have loved before my husband, i have never known a love as true as husband and wife.

I find it irritating that so many people seem to take this commitment so lightly. (of course there are some exceptions to everything) I've seen women who marry out of convenience. (note: i say women because that's what i've observed. i don't make it a point to see the guys side because, well i'm a woman get over it!) I've seen women who can so easily disregard that ring on their left hand. Why?

To me, marriage is when you feel at peace. You feel completely comfortable and happy that you have found the man you want to spend the rest of your life with. You feel confident that you can make this commitment in front of God, family and friends. So why do so many people just trash it?

I do not think that a married woman should be out at bars with a bunch of single guys. A girls night now and again is okay, but when people begin to perceive you as "that" wife... maybe you should stop saying they shouldn't judge you and realize what your ACTIONS are saying... (which trust me is far more than any words you can say) It saddens me really. Some women go out and SEARCH for that "acceptance" or "gratitude" from other men hitting on them. Don't get me wrong, every woman loves compliments, but I can't help but feel "dirty" or "annoyed" when someone "hits" on me. I just find it disgusting really. yet some wives are all about it. they THRIVE off of that.

Why is that? Is it because they married too young? Out of convenience?

I don't know the answer to that being as I'm not one of those women.

I also don't understand girlfriends acting as though they're married. Have you lived with this person? Have you committed yourself to them in front of God? Have you made ample amounts of effort to go from being 2 people into 1?

Marriage isn't a joke. It pisses me off that so many people (especially around my age) act as though it is. I'm sorry, but if you're a girlfriend you know NOTHING about marriage. You can threaten the "i'll break up with you" card all you like! In a marriage threatening the divorce card merely shows your immaturity and lack of true commitment to your spouse (said: always exceptions).

I understand that some people can love so strongly and feel as though they will be married one day, but UNTIL THAT DAY YOU ARE NOT A SPOUSE! I've been that girl that was so head over heels up my boyfriends ass swearing we'll get married (even got engaged) but guess what... I DIDNT MARRY THEM!! *SHOCK* i know, who would have thought MY plan may not have been GODS plan.

I'm just sick of it. It's irritating. I take my marriage seriously. I surround myself with friends who also take theirs seriously. We respect, support, encourage and prosper for our husbands. We move ALL OVER THE WORLD for our husbands. We make every effort to put their happiness before our own because they are our husbands.

Ephesians 5:22, 28-31. "Wives submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is head of the wife, even as Christ is head of the church; and he is the savior of the body. Therefore as the church is subject to Christ, so let wives be to their own husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wife as Christ also loved the church and gave himself for it . . . So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church . . . For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother and shal.1 be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh".

I ask this... why make a committment you have NO intent to keep? why claim a committment that was never certain?

RESPECT MARRIAGE. Respect your marriage. Respect others marriage.