GOODbye

Too often then not people (including me) focus on the bad parts of goodbyes.

Sidenote: why do they call them GOODbyes? What's good about them?

Last night while I laid in my bed trying to fall asleep I was thinking about this. Is it good to say bye? Is that the purpose of the word?

If you're curious too... Goodbye comes from God be with ye

I decided i wanted to focus on the good things about saying goodbye...particulary towards my husband since that's the situation I'm in right now. So I made a list... I think this will help me stay optimistic and positive for any time that my husband has to leave.

When i say goodbye to my husband...
1. I get more time to focus on God and read His word.
2. I get more self-reflection time. I'm able to use my time to focus on important things about my life as well as able to focus on ways to better myself which will ultimately help better our marriage.
3. I get more one on one time with both of my children. I can focus on each of them and i learn new things about them both. i consider myself blessed to have the ability to be a stay-at-home mom.
4. My house stays cleaner. Haha. Having 1 toddler is hard to clean up after when caring for a newborn but then adding a husband who loves to come home, eat, shower and then climb in bed makes it harder lol.
5. I can eat whatever I want to eat for dinner and whenever I want it.
6. I'm able to watch whatever I want on Tv.
7. I can snuggle with my kids in bed if they wake up in the middle of the night without worrying about him being exhausted the next day at work. (he doesn't sleep well at night when our kids are in bed with us)
8. I am able to use this as a learning experience and a growing experience for future times apart.
9. I realize more and more just how much I love my husband's ability to be an outstanding father. it becomes evident to me just how amazing of a father he is and just how thankful I am to have him. He truly does do a lot.
10. Strengthens my love for my husband. He truly is my best friend. I find myself having something happen and just wanting to talk to him. No one understands me like he does. He truly is my better half and I thank God for him daily. Absence definitely makes the heart grow fonder.

So my challenge to you is this. If your husband (or wife) is gone (even if just for a few hours, days, weeks, whatever), try not to focus on the bad. Make a list of the things you find GOOD about your GOODbye. It will help with your mood and if you have kids that mood will be evident to your children and make for a much easier transition.

xoxo
S